An Inquiry: Jealousy is consuming me and it’s destroying my relationship and I can see it but I don’t know how to get over it?
How We Would Respond: Don’t try to get over it.
Whether you react to jealousy by acting it out, or attempting to get over it, you are engaging it. You are investing in it somehow.
If you would stop engaging an emotional response like jealousy, if you would not invest in it at all, it would lose the energy you’re providing it and would dissipate. One way to stop your investment is to neutrally, impartially observe the emotional response.
You do not act on it, you do not attempt to get rid of it, you do not engage it at all — you simply observe it.