Book Review: Loving What Is By Byron Katie

Loving What Is – Four Questions That Can Change Your Life is an introduction, and also instruction, for something called The Work. The Work is a popular self-help method created by Byron Katie that, essentially, amounts to a cost-benefit analysis for believing our thinking.

While in a state of prolonged personal distress Katie came to the realization that all emotional suffering is actually caused by thought processes, and not by external events (as most people believe). This insight led to Katie inquiring about the thinking that caused her own distress, about its truth and the ramifications of believing this thinking.

The Work was born.

I consider The Work to be an important and effective method for life improvement. It’s certainly not the only effective means for making life better but it’s a valuable option to have, if one chooses to put it to use.

Loving What Is describes the process of practicing The Work through writing out thinking, and then applying four questions to a thought: Is it true? Can you absolutely know that it’s true? How do you react when you believe the thought? Who would you be without the thought?

After honestly answering the four questions something called a turnaround is applied to the original thought. A turnaround is a statement opposite of the original thought that, at least potentially, is just as true or more true than the initial thinking.

Loving What Is is a very thorough exploration of The Work, including examples of Katie using The Work in real counseling sessions. After considering Loving What Is you will certainly be informed enough to do The Work on your own, which is the ultimate aim.

Is The Work for everyone? Possibly not. Some people find fault with Katie’s fundamental outlook that nothing is bad, and may consider The Work to be rationalization more than anything. It’s obviously someone’s prerogative to feel this way, if they choose, but for those who genuinely want to stop suffering The Work is an exceptional help choice.

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